Are you holding a grudge? About? Loving an alcohol dependent person is a messy business particularly when you need to believe in the person who is thus dependent. Even now it feels terrible to point out those terrors because alcohol dependency too often makes the person misrepresent their reasons for starting and maintaining their dependency. … More The lies of an alcohol dependent person are understandable. The willingness of others to be co-dependent for their own interests in the name of ‘friendship’ is too. But is it unforgivable too?