My favourite word is NOT ‘WORD’. Because the Word on its own is not everything but it keeps pretending it is.

What’s your favorite word? This piece is dedicated to Heppy, who as well as being a man of his word is also wise because he knows words are links to each other and between us all. He is a hero. And a teacher. Lucky students. Whether we are religious or not, we live in a … More My favourite word is NOT ‘WORD’. Because the Word on its own is not everything but it keeps pretending it is.

As I was reading Mark Griffin’s (2018) ‘All That Heaven Allows: A Biography of Rock Hudson’, I think I concluded that Rock Hudson’s story and life-performance illustrates that the art of ‘passing’ was never the opposite of ‘coming out’.

As I was reading Mark Griffin’s (2018) All That Heaven Allows: A Biography of Rock Hudson (New York, Harper), I think I concluded that Rock Hudson was neither insightful nor supremely talented though he was sometimes a very good actor and performer indeed (though also sometimes not so good and – by his own estimation … More As I was reading Mark Griffin’s (2018) ‘All That Heaven Allows: A Biography of Rock Hudson’, I think I concluded that Rock Hudson’s story and life-performance illustrates that the art of ‘passing’ was never the opposite of ‘coming out’.

This evening I am seeing a screening of Matthew Bourne’s ‘Swan Lake’ at the Gala Cinema, Durham.

What are you doing this evening? Swan Lake was the first ballet I ever saw, apart from a rather ill-understood experience of Don Quixote in Moscow on a programmed trip of Moscow & the then Leningrad arranged by Intourist (the state tourist agency of communist Russia – Gorbachev was President then). I wrote about it … More This evening I am seeing a screening of Matthew Bourne’s ‘Swan Lake’ at the Gala Cinema, Durham.

Red flags are alerts from our own self-defence systems. Can they sometimes be over-vigilant and deny us new experience unnecessarily.

What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you? Image from : https://www.carp.ca/2014/03/07/ask-expert-red-flags-investing/ People don’t walk around with ‘red flags’, even to announce anymore the danger posed by a motor car, yet we are asked to see them everywhere – to look for the ‘red flag’ warnings that situation is not as safe … More Red flags are alerts from our own self-defence systems. Can they sometimes be over-vigilant and deny us new experience unnecessarily.

An author owning the memories and thoughts in ‘Ootlin’.

The narrator of Ootlin: A memoir, written by Jenni Fagan, experiences one of her many moves into foster care in Chapter 5 of that book. Recreating the thought of and about a younger self, these co-operating storytellers say: ‘The car windows are tightly closed. A cardboard lemon spins under the mirror. I only want two … More An author owning the memories and thoughts in ‘Ootlin’.

The perfect week would the ‘Perfect Day’ seven times repeated.

Describe your ideal week. Lou Reed never did make a ‘perfect day’ seem as perfect as his initial claim says it will be. Though he projects events that seem relaxed and inviting, they turn out not to seem so to the person he wants to help make his day perfect. How can it, or will … More The perfect week would the ‘Perfect Day’ seven times repeated.

Zaffar Kunial’s (2022) ‘England’s Green’ is a miraculous book of poems divided between those gathered under the term ‘IN’, and those similarly gathered under ‘OUT’. This blog is a way of preparing to hear him read at the Durham Book Festival at the Gala Studio on Friday 13th September 5.30 – 6.15 p.m.

Zaffar Kunial’s (2022) England’s Green is a miraculous book of poems divided between those gathered under the term ‘IN’, and those similarly gathered under ‘OUT’. These lines are an example from the first section (from Ings):‘against the edge of an unseeable force that stops things / short or holds things / in. Life, within life, … More Zaffar Kunial’s (2022) ‘England’s Green’ is a miraculous book of poems divided between those gathered under the term ‘IN’, and those similarly gathered under ‘OUT’. This blog is a way of preparing to hear him read at the Durham Book Festival at the Gala Studio on Friday 13th September 5.30 – 6.15 p.m.

Why you still don’t ‘out’ the athletes who identify as LGBTQI+ but still have to ‘respect them most’. To emphasise that I name no living athlete, even those who have dared openly living as gay or queer.

Name the professional athletes you respect the most and why. At last, I thought, the daily prompt question setters at Word Press have set a question I cannot turn to my own purposes neither politically nor personally. Maybe however, I am underplaying the extremely weird connectivity of the synapses controlling links in my memory and … More Why you still don’t ‘out’ the athletes who identify as LGBTQI+ but still have to ‘respect them most’. To emphasise that I name no living athlete, even those who have dared openly living as gay or queer.

When I use a word, it means just what I choose it to mean. So why bother losing ‘one word’ when it might be any word..

If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be? One may not be such an authority on how even just you use even one word of which you think you are master. Hear out this debate, one that ought to matter a lot in the discussion of languages … More When I use a word, it means just what I choose it to mean. So why bother losing ‘one word’ when it might be any word..

The lies of an alcohol dependent person are understandable. The willingness of others to be co-dependent for their own interests in the name of ‘friendship’ is too. But is it unforgivable too?

Are you holding a grudge? About? Loving an alcohol dependent person is a messy business particularly when you need to believe in the person who is thus dependent. Even now it feels terrible to point out those terrors because alcohol dependency too often makes the person misrepresent their reasons for starting and maintaining their dependency. … More The lies of an alcohol dependent person are understandable. The willingness of others to be co-dependent for their own interests in the name of ‘friendship’ is too. But is it unforgivable too?

If home is a construct made up of habitual behaviours, ideas , emotions and senses, so are the distances we travel from it.

Share a story about the furthest you’ve ever traveled from home. I am obsessed with Freud’s idea of the Heimlich I think. Being at home is a feeling of safety and security that doesn’t always correlate with a physical place and time in space. We can travel many miles and for many hours and carry … More If home is a construct made up of habitual behaviours, ideas , emotions and senses, so are the distances we travel from it.