If the way to a straight  guy’s heart is via his satisfied stomach, this was some failure to woo. A student day’s tale.

Write about your most epic baking or cooking fail. I was a student at UCL in the early 1970s and in my first year had a room at a single-sex University of London residence near Kings Cross (it’s lost to history now in lots of ways and replaced by a glossy privatised version of student … More If the way to a straight  guy’s heart is via his satisfied stomach, this was some failure to woo. A student day’s tale.

I wish I had believed about myself what Socrates was said to believe about himself when Plato quotes him as saying, “I neither know nor think I know”.

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life. It is almost certain that Socrates never said, as people sometimes believe, anything like, ‘All I know is that I know nothing’, but then can we we truly ever be certain about anything. How people came to believe he said this is explained in … More I wish I had believed about myself what Socrates was said to believe about himself when Plato quotes him as saying, “I neither know nor think I know”.

‘The swirling bonfire of change of the “sixties” put down for all of us to see’. Further thoughts on the meaning of male beauty in painted images, using this re-found treasure: Patrick Kinmonth (1985) ‘Patrick Procktor’.

‘The swirling bonfire of change of the “sixties” put down for all of us to see’.[1] Another book found (at the PBFA Bookfair at the Knavesmire Suite at York Racecourse on the 15th of September 2023. Further thoughts on the meaning of male beauty in painted images, using this re-found treasure: Patrick Kinmonth (1985) Patrick … More ‘The swirling bonfire of change of the “sixties” put down for all of us to see’. Further thoughts on the meaning of male beauty in painted images, using this re-found treasure: Patrick Kinmonth (1985) ‘Patrick Procktor’.

To want to see oneself as a leader is the first danger to overcome in ‘thoughtful leadership’. But, in any case, I don’t think I have the skills for it or any other kind of leadership. A little bit on Wilfred Bion.

Do you see yourself as a leader? Thoughtful leaders are first of all concerned with keeping their organisation ‘on task’. In pursuit of this, thoughtful leadership provides containment, is available for thought, and mobilises others in the organisation to be thoughtful. Throughout the paper lessons are drawn from the work of the psychoanalyst Wilfred Bion … More To want to see oneself as a leader is the first danger to overcome in ‘thoughtful leadership’. But, in any case, I don’t think I have the skills for it or any other kind of leadership. A little bit on Wilfred Bion.

In 2018 Lewis Segal wrote in The Los Angeles Times of Matthew Bourne’s ‘Swan Lake’ and praised ‘the members of the swan corps: feathered, bare-chested virtuosos whose sense of menace kept the work from collapsing into short-lived camp’. Is this a work that STILL demands attention from everyone in the queer community. I saw it on 13th September at the Gala Cinema, Durham City, UK.

In 2018 Lewis Segal wrote in The Los Angeles Times of Matthew Bourne’s Swan Lake, playing there at the time and praised in particular ‘the members of the swan corps: feathered, bare-chested virtuosos whose sense of menace kept the work from collapsing into short-lived camp. Bourne created the work at a time when a law … More In 2018 Lewis Segal wrote in The Los Angeles Times of Matthew Bourne’s ‘Swan Lake’ and praised ‘the members of the swan corps: feathered, bare-chested virtuosos whose sense of menace kept the work from collapsing into short-lived camp’. Is this a work that STILL demands attention from everyone in the queer community. I saw it on 13th September at the Gala Cinema, Durham City, UK.

My favourite word is NOT ‘WORD’. Because the Word on its own is not everything but it keeps pretending it is.

What’s your favorite word? This piece is dedicated to Heppy, who as well as being a man of his word is also wise because he knows words are links to each other and between us all. He is a hero. And a teacher. Lucky students. Whether we are religious or not, we live in a … More My favourite word is NOT ‘WORD’. Because the Word on its own is not everything but it keeps pretending it is.

As I was reading Mark Griffin’s (2018) ‘All That Heaven Allows: A Biography of Rock Hudson’, I think I concluded that Rock Hudson’s story and life-performance illustrates that the art of ‘passing’ was never the opposite of ‘coming out’.

As I was reading Mark Griffin’s (2018) All That Heaven Allows: A Biography of Rock Hudson (New York, Harper), I think I concluded that Rock Hudson was neither insightful nor supremely talented though he was sometimes a very good actor and performer indeed (though also sometimes not so good and – by his own estimation … More As I was reading Mark Griffin’s (2018) ‘All That Heaven Allows: A Biography of Rock Hudson’, I think I concluded that Rock Hudson’s story and life-performance illustrates that the art of ‘passing’ was never the opposite of ‘coming out’.

This evening I am seeing a screening of Matthew Bourne’s ‘Swan Lake’ at the Gala Cinema, Durham.

What are you doing this evening? Swan Lake was the first ballet I ever saw, apart from a rather ill-understood experience of Don Quixote in Moscow on a programmed trip of Moscow & the then Leningrad arranged by Intourist (the state tourist agency of communist Russia – Gorbachev was President then). I wrote about it … More This evening I am seeing a screening of Matthew Bourne’s ‘Swan Lake’ at the Gala Cinema, Durham.

Red flags are alerts from our own self-defence systems. Can they sometimes be over-vigilant and deny us new experience unnecessarily.

What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you? Image from : https://www.carp.ca/2014/03/07/ask-expert-red-flags-investing/ People don’t walk around with ‘red flags’, even to announce anymore the danger posed by a motor car, yet we are asked to see them everywhere – to look for the ‘red flag’ warnings that situation is not as safe … More Red flags are alerts from our own self-defence systems. Can they sometimes be over-vigilant and deny us new experience unnecessarily.

An author owning the memories and thoughts in ‘Ootlin’.

The narrator of Ootlin: A memoir, written by Jenni Fagan, experiences one of her many moves into foster care in Chapter 5 of that book. Recreating the thought of and about a younger self, these co-operating storytellers say: ‘The car windows are tightly closed. A cardboard lemon spins under the mirror. I only want two … More An author owning the memories and thoughts in ‘Ootlin’.

The perfect week would the ‘Perfect Day’ seven times repeated.

Describe your ideal week. Lou Reed never did make a ‘perfect day’ seem as perfect as his initial claim says it will be. Though he projects events that seem relaxed and inviting, they turn out not to seem so to the person he wants to help make his day perfect. How can it, or will … More The perfect week would the ‘Perfect Day’ seven times repeated.